Monday, January 4, 2010
Relationships and Trust
In strong relationships, trust is an important element. You need to be able to trust your friend, significant other, husband, or wife. What happens when you have doubts about someone’s faithfulness (let’s think of a significant other) but can’t prove it? Do you give the benefit of the doubt? Or are you automatically suspicious? I want to hear your individual opinions on the matter.
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Trust is an important element in relationships. How can you marry or be friends with someone you can't trust. You can tell form the start that you will not have a strong relationship with that person. Sometimes you doubt people, and sometimes you cannot prove it. You can't just assume that it is nothing and there is nothing wrong. Also, you can't just be suspicious of that person all of the time. For me i would probably be a little suspicious of that person. But, i would not just assume that everything is fine between me and that person. Maybe i would ask to hang out with the person so i could get to know them better. Sometimes you can be suspicious for nothing. Or you can just let it go when you canno actually trust this person. Also, it could be the other way around.
I think that trust is an extremely important part in any relationship. Without it any sort of relationship falls to pieces. For example one of my really close friends had a huge problem with me because she couldnt trust me because I said something to someone that I necissarily shouldnt have but it really wasn't that big of a deal. She didnt talk to me for a week. It took alot for me to regain her trust but now we are on good terms.
In the situation of if I had doubts on someone I always give them the benefit of the doubt. This is because if you begin to assume something about someone then they definately will become more distant from you than if they were being untruthful. So, when I am faced with that situation I try to figure out as much proof that they were being untruthful as I can and then I adress them upfront so we can fix the problem. That works most of the time
When a someone in your life makes you believe that you can't trust them, you may act differently around them. If the lie is small then you shouldn't make a big deal about it, but if it is a big problem, then you should be suspicious. If you don't really know who is lying, then you should try figure out by doing little things, you shouldn't jump right in and accuse someone of doing something. You should give your trusted friend the benifit of the doubt if you really don't know who is lying, but just keep an eye out for anything suspicious.
Its hard to give an accurate example of how one would react in this situation with out actually experiencing it themselves. Thinking about it, I know I would think up the most logical way of dealing with the situation. However if it was on the spot I am sure it would be easy to let my emotions take over and i might act out in a way that is not best. I believe that my first instinct would be to trust my partner, but as I said before I do not think that I can give a real life answer.
Trust is imprortant for any relationship to be steady. However despite this lies do take place. Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it, because the person always claims that a specific event never happened or they never did anything to them. HOwever how do you know. One easy solution is to be with them more often ask them to come with you places. This can either prevent the person from continueing or make it more easy for you to either witness to prove to youself what is happening is true or to catch that person in the act. Either way, trust is vital because it is the foundation of a steady and prosperous relationship.
Trust is a very important element in relationships, trusting someone that is close with you is something that requires time. so, just because you are not sure if someone is being faithful to you or not does not mean that you should automatically be suspicious. Because so much time and effor is in place to first trust this person, you should not automatically be suspicious of them. Usually if you know someone for a long time and develop a trust with them then you are not going to think this.
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